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One thing I forgot, as we leave this garden centre ish place, the man walks in front of me, I don’t like how he walks, it doesn’t feel attractive to me, but I put it to one side vexactly as I have done with the argument friend I described. The feeling of the dream was that I felt very calm and happy and was very keen to stay near to this mans needs, but in the waking life opposite situation I was raging and felt horrible and wanted ( for the first time in this relationship which I am in my conscious mind quite unsure of) to utterly cut myself off from my friend.
I’m having real trouble with a dream , so if nobody minds I can try and start this thing? I feel like my dream describes the OPPOSITE of what happened in my waking life, but also what has been my habit for many many years, and so I feel very confused.
I am standing on a path beside my youngest child’s primary school, I’m in the shade with some women, perhaps three, who I can’t see. A man drives slowly last in a pick up truck with a trailer on. I immediately approach him, stepping out of the shaded area into the lit grass verge, and ask him if he needs any help as he looks lost.
He says yes he’s looking for this place, in my dream I faintly know the name but can’t help him. I try quite hard to remember, I want to help him. I think he’s quite attractive, but this thought sort of surprises me. He seems like he’s going to drive off, but I follow him and offer to phone my ex husband who usually knows where places are because he’s always on the roads delivering machines.
He pulls into a lay-by while I phone Rob. I notice there are three small blonde young boys playing and scampering in the otherwise empty trailer, they are evidently his sons. He is their father. They all look a similar age. They are mischievous and jumping around having fun, their father is in the truck on his phone. They show me a brochure, which looks like it should have machinery or something in it, and it has pictures of underwear and sex related items in it! I look at it and realise the man is looking for a female companion! The little boys think it’s very funny and somehow this subject matter is not in any way inappropriate for them, they are part of their fathers search. I look at the brochure, understand what the man wants to find, and despite feeling a bit ambivalent I decide that as I can’t get hold of Rob I will go along with him and offer that too!
We then find ourselves at a garden centre type place, he and the boys seem fairly unaware of me,
infact the boys aren’t there for a bit, and it seems a little like an old people’s home, and also a place in Arizona I once visited where there were piles and piles of pieces of fossilised tree. As the man decides he has finished there, didn’t find what he wanted ( which has become more vague again ) we decide to go to the door. At the door, something happens where both of us are obscured to each other. Then we can see each other again, and although there’s an uneasy feeling, we agree it was a misunderstanding.Then I offer why don’t you all come back to my house ( which is a long way in the other direction) and have some food. I realise this may mean having sex with th3 man, but I’m rather casual and just seem oddly compelled to keep offering more. The man did sent seem bothered either way, but they all come back to my house, which is a bit like as it’s was when I first moved in there twenty
years ago, and then I prett6 much wake up.The only situation I can think of in the days before was a huge heated row with a friend I’ve become very suddenly close with, who is very ill, and who I have seen I’m doing this offering thing to. I have done this a lot in my life and am very conscious of this pattern. But what happened that day was a huge vicious row about women’s rights and my friend denying women had eve4 had any disadvantage in the world, something I feel very strongly about, and his attitude stretched towards race and economic privileges too, he was vehemently denying the, all. He is a white make who was educated at one of the best schools in the world, and I became incandescent with this feeling of injustice. This is quite rare for me, but I can remember three iccassi9ns in the past where I felt this crazy rage about an injustice. I can’t make the connections with my dream, but I can’t at all think what else it was about if not very opposite side of same behavioural coin !!
Thank you hugely if anyone has the patience or time for this! I’m hoping you can see something o can’t ! Thank you thank you !
I like this idea too Lisa – although I’ve had less helpful experiences on dream forums where everyone just wades in from every angle in a big jumble, and although it’s often very enthusiastic which is lovely, it can feel quite unhelpful and confusing in terms of the dream. From my previous experience (which is only my personal experience, and isn’t huge!) is that it was most helpful when members engage with alternative questions the dreamer could ask her or himself, maybe that’s something that could be involved? I’d love to read an chat with you about a dream if you have one you want to start with?
I can only offer my own thinking out loud in response to your post Fiona, I feel like we can mine the unconscious really effectively, and gain wonderful insight into how we might be preventing our own progress and evolution, but I don’t feel like we’d ever be free from fear. For me, and perhaps others, fear is itself a sign of growth, and in my experience never lessens as we move through life. What it does maybe do is become more recognisable as an ally, a sign that there is potentially powerful, expansive change afoot! I am currently feeling terrified at some of the change and shifts ( and implied action taking !!… ) that my recent dream alchemy has brought up… I don’t know what will happen in my life as a result of this, but I do know that a life without any kind of fear, for me, would be stagnation …
Hi Cíntia! I agree it sometimes feels really weird and difficult! When I do manage to do the simple sentence, it’s usually when I’ve been able to let MOST of the detail drop away, and sort of try to see in the most basic sense what happened. It feels like the opposite of recording the dream, in full technicolour with smells sounds feelings textures and everything, and more like how you’d describe it in a real hurry, or if you felt very bored having to describe it at any length! I have no idea if that’s helpful ! 🙏🏽
I may have felt my way into an answer for the question, Ive focused very hard in the visualisation of this hug being different, focused on all the details of it which ARE infact very different, and managed to steer clear of the other images that wanted to come in. And these images I’m seeing as a glimmer of gold, a realisation about myself that could definately be related, and the tears that I allowed more fully than maybe I have done about this memory. I’ve had a few glimmers of gold, things I’ve said, small unusual ( for me) actions I’ve taken, ways I have felt. I still don’t feel absolute 100 percent full sighted about my dream interpretation, despite working on it through the videos and sheets long and hard, but am letting myself be satisfied with a strong theme and some senses about the theme. I feel like I don’t want to push and force at the dream for sharper focus.. does anyone else feel like that?
Thank you Jane Teresa! That’s very helpful, particularly how you have pointed out that we WILL feel echoes from the past quite strongly, but that is because something that occurred in the last 1-2 days has felt similar, and may relate to a stubborn issue! I have a fair few stubborn issues that come up, ( which is why I’m interested in working with dreams and the unconscious in the first place I guess!) and it’s so easy for me to go back towards the root of these feelings rather than see that there are more recent flowers or fruits that are much fresher versions of this theme that I can work with. Thanks for your detailed reply, I’m just now beginning my first dream alchemy chart, and am excited to use your methods and draw on your experience.
Thank you Jane Teresa! There’s one thing on my mind about the work so far which something in me keeps wanting to ask about! I don’t know if this is the wrong place to ask a question about the course? It’s the information about the dream being related directly to waking life event 1-2 days before the dream. It might just be that left to my own devices I’ve always looked at dreams differently regarding the time scale, but I’m really interested as to why this is the case? It’s brought a very different feeling to how I approach my dreams. Thankyou, and apologies if this is not the right place to ask this question.
Hello, my name is beth, I’m currently doing your second course Jane Teresa, on Dream Alchemy, I’m LOVING the approach, it’s so interesting, I’ve avoided a structured analytical approach previously but it felt right, and I’m so enjoying the detailed framework you set out. I’m an intuitive artist and advocate and would love to work more with my clients and their dreams one day. Hello everyone!